Better communication isn’t a personality trait. It’s a skill. And you can learn it.
Been feeling more like roommates than partners? You’ve come to the right place.
Ever wondered why the arguments in your relationship tend to start and end the same way?
Take my Conflict Style Quiz here to learn about what your conflict style says about you, and what you can do about it!
Meet Heard: A Couples Workbook for Ditching Mindreading and Actually Communicating
Heard is an 8-chapter digital workbook thoughtfully designed to build on itself; each chapter will teach you the skills you need to advance to the next chapter. It provides you with a clear, guided path toward the kind of communication your relationship needs. Every chapter includes worksheets and reflection prompts you can return to as often as you need. There's no limit to how many times you can use this workbook, so re-visit chapters that stuck out to you as frequently as you need. You’ll learn how to have productive discussions that don’t feel like they derail your entire day. And you’ll create a bond with your partner that feels solid enough to handle whatever the external factors throw your way (kids, job stress, in-laws, etc.).
I know you.
Okay, not you personally.
But I know that the fights you and your partner are having are the same fights so many couples have.
Does this sound familiar?
"Every conversation turns into an argument."
"I feel like I'm walking on eggshells."
"We just can't communicate."
"I love them, but lately it feels like we're just... coexisting."
This doesn’t mean your relationship is failing. It means you're two human beings navigating the craziness that life throws at you, and sometimes it throws off your ability to effectively communicate. What you expect to come naturally just simply doesn’t, and it’s not indicative of failure. It just might be time to switch up what’s in your toolbox.
This workbook is for you if:
You’re curious about the role you play in your relationship
You want to change the way you communicate with your partner for good
You’re motivated to change
You’re not afraid to explore life outside your comfort zone
What’s inside:
8 total chapters written by a licensed therapist (informed by thousands of clinical hours spent with couples just like you!)
Over 40 pages of guided communication support, all with your relationship in mind
Practical, research-backed skills to apply in your everyday life
Several worksheets per chapter that are meant to be be revisited as many times as you need
Clearly-defined goals for you and your partner to work towards
Free Journaling Prompts
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Free Journaling Prompts ✹
Overwhelmed by how the problems have taken over the identity of your relationship? I developed these journaling prompts to help you learn about yourself first, which will inevitably help your partner understand you better.
Hey there, I'm Ruby.
After earning my Master’s in Counseling with an emphasis on couples and relational work, I opened a private practice focused on helping people navigate major life changes and improve their relationships. Having spent thousands of clinical hours listening to couples share their goals and frustrations, I began to notice a recurring theme: couples deeply want to grow together, but often wonder, why does it feel so hard to get there?
And then, I realized I was hearing an iteration of an answer to that question over and over again:
“I don’t think my partner understands what it’s like to be me.”
It seems like such a simple statement, but it perfectly captures where things “go wrong” for so many couples.
You deserve support that meets you where you are. And that’s exactly what I’m here for.
Heard is built on the same framework I use with my clients, made accessible for couples like you who are ready to do the work on their own terms.
HOW DID I GET HERE?
The path I took to working with couples isn’t what I’d consider “conventional.”
A bit more about me…..
My favorite way to stay connected to my husband is through cooking. We love being in the kitchen together, testing out new recipes, making tried-and-true favorite meals, and hosting our friends and family. I have 2 daughters who’ve, unintentionally, taught me what it truly means to “not sweat the small stuff,” and 1 dog we decided to rescue because he smiles like this
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